Sideways - "The Lovers' Scissors"
by Al Link and Pala Copeland

The “lovers’ scissors” is our morning meditation together, but you can do it at any time of day or as a meditation at bedtime. We sleep nude, usually curled up like spoons, and immediately upon waking assume this loving posture, holding it for anywhere from 5-30 minutes depending upon how much time we have. Used in this way, the “lover’s scissors” is not actually considered a sexual position, but rather a loving energy meditation. Although there is genital connection, this meditation is not intercourse for sexual arousal—there is no active thrusting or drive to complete an orgasm. It is for balancing your masculine and feminine energies and connecting emotionally and spiritually with your lover.

Experiment with doing this every day for several weeks and then not doing it for a few days. You will notice that its effects are cumulative, important and powerful. When you do the exercise daily, you will relate to each other more respectfully, appreciatively, and lovingly. You will also have greater personal resilience and resources for dealing with all the stresses and challenges of living. When we do this regularly, we are calm and loving toward each other. When we skip it for a while (more than 4 days in a row) we can start to get antsy and even a little snarly with each other!

For ending lovemaking while you still have desire, which means the man has not ejaculated, use the “lovers’ scissors” position. When a man ejaculates this usually ends the lovemaking, but if you end the lovemaking without a male ejaculation you must decide how and when to stop some other way. When we join in this position it allows our passion and hot sexual energy to subside naturally and comfortably, so that we can drift off to sleep, or after a timely interval, get up and resume activities for household or work. This position is also excellent when the lingam is large and the yoni is small.